The Bitch is Back: My Superpower?
Mid-January truth: I’m done with people-pleasing.
Not kindness. Not compassion.
The kind of niceness that edits my truth in real time.
For a lot of us—especially those who grew up queer or different—people-pleasing wasn’t weakness. It was survival. We learned to read the room, adapt fast, stay likable, stay safe. Those skills became superpowers… and also a cage.
At some point, growth asks for something new.
Boundaries. Honesty. A willingness to disappoint.
A little inner bitch who can say, “That doesn’t work for me,” and mean it.
The bitch is back.
And maybe that’s not a problem. Maybe it’s a superpower.
Good Fire: Clearing for What Comes Next
New Year. Same Human. Deeper Intention.
The Intentional Growth System invites a different kind of renewal—one rooted in stewardship, not self-fixing. Like cultural burning, intentional “good fire” clears what no longer serves, enriches the soil and makes space for robust new life. Through awareness, choice, integration and return, growth becomes holistic, cyclical, and sustainable. No reinvention required. Just careful tending, honest noticing and faithful return to what matters most.
You Do You, Babe
You do you, babe.
If “you” need rest, grab it.
If “you” need movement, walk, run, ride, ski, just do it.
If “you” need space, take it.
If “you” need to laugh it off and eat another cookie, savor it.
Give yourself permission this week…
Winter is coming.
What kind of leadership becomes possible when I allow growth to emerge from stillness and deliberate quiet?
As winter arrives, the Earth invites a natural slowing. Light shortens and with it comes an opportunity to pause and listen.
Rather than grading the year a success or failure, winter asks a gentler question: What did this year teach me?
Where did I stretch, learn, and discover my limits and what wisdom lives there?
This season is not for harsh self-assessment or relentless forward motion. It’s a time for rest, integration and insight. Let winter be a threshold, not a verdict. Consider winter a moment to release what no longer serves and then step forward with openness toward the returning light of spring.
Beginning With Intention
The Intentional Growth System honors each step forward as meaningful, each insight is a seed and each attuned action, no matter how small, as an act of choosing yourself.
You are invited.
Let’s begin right here.
should
Pondering “should”.
Should you? Says who?
We often, especially now, need the courage to experiment and find new ways of seeing, being and doing. Everything, literally everything, is shifting around us, re-organizing and racing ahead, fast. Now more than ever, we need to be ready to adapt to that change. And to adapt you need, or should, experiment.
Group Therapy.
Maybe it’s naïve, but I believe we need kind, caring, compassionate leaders who listen to and learn from their hearts, minds and bodies.
We need leaders willing to join the walk proudly as their most secret, most authentic self.
We need leaders so transparently comfortable with that authentic, secret self that everyone walking with them feels safe in their own respective authenticity.
That’s a tall order.
Will I be successful helping to nurture that kind of leader?
I have no idea.
Honestly, it doesn’t really matter that much because I do know with absolute certainty that I am already on the way.
I hope you’ll walk with me.
Do all with one intention.
We can lead each other with renewed commitments to grace, kindness and compassion. I know with my entire essence that includes my mind, heart and body, we each need to lead into our collective future with all the grace and compassion we can muster. We all need to get better, perhaps slowly at first but by building momentum, each day.
We need to get better at serving one another with this single-minded intention: to awaken our hearts to our profound connection with each other and everything around us.
The time to start is now.
Please join me.